Before I start. I do not support sex before marriage, but ehm we are human beings... we always break rules...
Now... I mean Sex was made for man when he meets his woman... or for woman wen she meets her man ( before the feminist minds will attack me )
its like a gift from the one who made us...
i mean... they say the feeling when you hit that spot... is so so good. according to the experts...
i mean... to those wu believe movies like its real life.... thats why when dey show ppl who r meant to me in love... music starts to play sparks n all that shit...
so where am i going with this...
forget how we humans have abused sex...
but the honest truth is...
you cant be in love... till u make love to/with ur partner...
because when u have sex u share things with the person involved thats very powerful...
so still wondering where i am going with this...
see...
GOD made sex for man n woman to express their feelings...
According to the experts... they say
lovers have sex to show their partners express how much they love miss or even angry with themselves.
do you now know where i am going with this?
if u dont then. sorry for wasting ur time...
but you cant come n tell me that sex really isn't almost everything when it comes to love...
the same way some people say the way they know God exists is cause there is a feeling of that supreme power n also cos name God exists ...
so... the same way... some people say when the fuck, or have sex with their partners they feel like they are "making love" so if sex is called Making Love... then seriously whats Love without sex...
Most times people say sex without love is crap...
when the real truth is what is Love without sex is meaningless...
If u feel i am wrong pls drop ur comment and bring serious proof.
yea God made sex for the confines of marriage...falling in love doesn't have anything to do with sex.Lust and love are two different things.A guy says to a girl ' i love you', hes not in love with her and he doesnt love her, his words are merely used to get her into bed. I love you' is used quite casually these days...
ReplyDeletetrue true... but at the same time. i think my post is talking bout how love n sex was meant to be. n not how it is right now with ppl abusing the word love n the act(sex)... read again pls...
ReplyDeleteOkay I had to call my Pastor to ask about this issue mehn...n he gave me an analogy..the bible says marriage is for better for worse..now if love is meaningless without sex or if sex completes love lemme give u an example...if two pple r married n one of them gets in an accident n can't perform sexually,lemme say d man loses all his nerves n testicles....should the woman leave the man?...or does it mean they're no longer in love?...answer that question for me... or maybe the woman loses all her nerves and can no longer have sex,what should happen?..n he made it very clear to me..the major purpose of sex is for multiplication...although Apostle Paul said it can also be used as a means to gratify d flesh...n God made it for married people cus having a child out of wedlock is a sin....so the only pple that r permitted by the bible to hve kids r married pple therefore sex is for them...even I got it wrong in my original comment..sex is not an expression of anything but lust...like I said,read 1st John 1,2 and 3 to understand wat love is...
ReplyDeleteso in conclusion Kanmi,sex n love r two seperate things...marriage is the complete act of sacrifice not sex so I was wrong myself... the thing that completes the love a man feels for a woman is marriage not sex.. Gen 2:23-24 says that "and Adam said,this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh:she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man.Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh"... the complete act of sacrifice is leaving ur family and all that u're used to n GIVING urself totally to someone for an unknown future..and love is sacrifice...GIVING is the complete expression of sacrifice..n when u give urself in marriage u hve fulfilled the reason y God put man n woman on this earth which is to multiply n sex is a means of fulfilling God's purpose for multiplication but it is not what defines or completes d love..what defines d love is d sacrifice of marriage... sex has nothing to do with love either as an expression or wateva...sex is a thing of d flesh n love is a thing of d spirit...n my pastor said to tell u what u're saying is blasphemy...lol..so there u hve it..
ReplyDeletek thanks for the correction.
ReplyDeleteI think calling this post blasphemy is a bit harsh and maybe even incorrect considering blasphemy, by definition, is the slander of God's name (and nowhere in this post does that occur). Yes, it doesn't reflect certain religious teachings we have been drilled with since we can remember but still, "blasphemy" is a wrong choice of words.
ReplyDeleteOn to the actual post, I think there should be a distinction between sex being an expression of love and it being an actual component of it. Aside the ways it has been abused, sex is actually one of the highest ways in which two people can show they love each other. This is the only reason I can think of why it feels so intense when you are with someone you care deeply about. In such situations, it is hard to argue that sex doesn't have spiritual connotations.
In this way, sex being used to express love doesn't necessarily mean that it is an integral part of that love. There can be love without sex. Not platonic love o... Full romantic love- it is VERY VERY rare but it happens. People with a lot of endurance can hold on till marriage- and it's hard to argue that such couples don't love each other. The fact remains though that such people WANT TO HAVE SEX, very badly in fact. They just choose not to for religious reasons or otherwise. The fact that there is a desire for it even when it is not there, I think, proves my point that even though love can exist without sex... Sex is a REALLY MAJOR way in which we tend to want to express our feelings.
Yes, I have come again with my essays... Sorry... :)
P.S. yes, I cannot deny that expression is important in matters of love because there is no point in feeling something in a relationship if the other person is unaware of it. Yet, the fact remains that the way in which you portray something is not the same as the substance of the thing itself.
ReplyDeleteSorry... I will stop typing now... :)
Great post from 'F'. Its a bit of here and there. I think sex does strengthen the bond between lovers and i KNOW there's a major difference between plain sex and making love. The connection can't be fake. Ppl really need to their own research and stop listening to everything pastors say. The fact is, sex is sweet. Its not sweet for animals, for them its purely for recreation. We're not animals. God put Eve with Adam cos he was lonely. You think they didn't have sex till they started having children. If it was purely for recreation.. infact if i list the consequences of such an idea... it'll fill up this page.
ReplyDeleteAnyways sex is not a major component of love....cos love comes in different forms. But for u and a partner, making love is the absolute expression of ur feelings.
Since I'm waiting for marriage, and I have a man whom I adore and who feels the same for me, I disagree with your opinion. But it is entirely yours to have;) Sex does deepen the relationship between lovers as other commentors have said. But, it is not the only way to connect with your significant other. Two people can have intimacy of the mental, spiritual and even physical sort without sex being involved.
ReplyDeletek ppl. when u have sex with the person u feel u love... pls comeback to drop ur comments... even if u have 10-199yrs till ur marriage.
ReplyDeletelolz!! for the most part i agree with u. I think its meant to make the love sweeter. Its a big part of it. its what lovers should do. i think the whole wait till marriage thingy is just cuz if someone says those vows to u in front of witnesses then they're definitely serious n in love. I feel the wait till ur wedding night is more of a culture thing. for me, marriage is basically just i promise to love u, u promise to love me no matter what with God as a witness. the whole ring, paper, pastor n family stuff are just ceremonious things. Basically what I'm saying is if two ppl r in love, its perfectly fine. my opinion i may be wrong. i mean cuz even when pastors n parents tell u to wait, they say wait till the right person comes along n the only time u can 100%ly sure is when when u have a ring on ur finger.
ReplyDeletewell, i read everyones posts and ive gotta say...theres no wrong.... i agree with ur post...love without sex is almost incomplete...and as for that scenario about the guy with the accident and losing his balls and all that, thats a situation...it wasnt meant to be.it happened...so that does not exactly explain it. ses is a gift for married couples..even tho most of us have emm.... opened our presents a lil earlier
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